Getting Dressed in the Dark
An Artist's Way Home

Getting Dressed in the Dark is a raw and evocative memoir that explores the complexities of love, betrayal, and the healing power of art. When Rob confesses his affair with Gabriella's young friend-shattering their decades-long bond built on radical honesty-her immediate reaction becomes a mouth-at-the-moment rupture that unravels the life they so carefully constructed. From their youth spent smoking in café corners and talking art and literature to two decades of unconventional creative partnership in a converted nineteenth-century schoolhouse in rural Maine, Gabriella and Rob built a world defined by openness, experimentation, and artistic devotion. Their polyamorous relationship was one more expression of that ethos-until betrayal tore apart not only their marriage but the foundation of their shared life's work. Through the aftermath of devastation, Getting Dressed in the Dark reflects on art, trust, and identity, asking what remains when the story you believed in most collapses-and how, for an artist, the material world can become a path back to wholeness.